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Energetic

Posted: September 24, 2014 in Fatherhood, Fitness, Physical, Spiritual
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A man whose heart is set on God is always energetic.  God placed this energy within us.  We never become tired in our vocation if our focus is on Him.

This energy within us must also be properly channeled and focused so that good fruit is produced.  If not focused properly it turns to the self, what I need, what I want – this energy becomes selfish.

It is important as fathers that we are energetic and enthusiastic about our faith and our participation in the Church.  It is important that our faith is alive in us all week and not just on Sunday’s for an hour.  Our faith should shine through in how we live our lives. Our families will not be interested in learning about their faith when the father shows no excitement toward what they believe in.  Our families will never be interested in participating if every time we are asked to partake in a Church function or help on a project we look for an excuse for why we cannot be involved.

Take time for your faith.  Live it and teach it to your children.  Your children should see your faith alive in you daily.

Remember God gave us the tools, the gifts, the talents to be involved and energetic.  We need to produce; we need to produce our fruit.  It is expected of us.

“For this reason, I remind you to stir into flame the gift of God that you have through the imposition of my hands.” (2 Tim 1:6)

Traditions are a good way to focus our energy as fathers.  Not only holiday traditions, but daily events that take place in the house with your children from a very young age that show positive energy and enthusiasm to your faith.

Examples of these are:

  • daily prayers with the children,
  • reading lives of the saints and bible stories,
  • mealtime prayers,
  • blessing them with holy water,
  • saying a short prayer when you hear a siren,
  • make the sign of the Cross when passing a Catholic Church
  • helping the poor

Actions to Live By

  • In order to have informal teaching opportunities, you need to have some informal times together.
  • What things do you enjoy doing? Is it basketball?  Playing catch?  How about a board game?  A drive in the country?  A walk in the park of the woods? A craft?  What is the best day of the week for some fun with the kids?  Pick one or two or all of the suggested activities, or add your own, but make sure that you have at least one informal time together every week. Sometimes they will just happen, so look for informal teaching times, no   matter where you are.  Some people call it “quality time.”  Once you are in the informal period – listen and watch.  The lessons will come, but don’t force them.  In the mean time you’re having fun with the kids.

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Strong

Posted: September 8, 2014 in Fatherhood, Physical, Prayer, Spiritual, Spiritual Warfare
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Men. Fatherhood is your vocation, your calling by God.  So many lay men think only the priesthood is a vocation.  They thought they had a vocation at one time but then decided to get married.  Then they are shocked when they find out marriage is not easy and the first time it gets tough they don’t know what to do, they run, they want to leave their marriage.  No!  Marriage and Fatherhood is our vocation.  It is not easy.  It isn’t supposed to be.  If it was easy God would not have made it a sacrament.  It is a sacrament because we cannot do it alone.  We need God’s help.  God knows we cannot do it alone.  We need God’s sacramental grace for strength. We become strong through our vocation, through Fatherhood. 

Our strength comes from being responsible.  We have great responsibility for the gifts and talents we have been given as fathers.  Show your strength to your children as a Father who helps clean, who helps with dinner and dishes.  Show your strength in being a servant to your family.  Jesus said the greatest is the one who serves.  We are accountable for producing the fruit from the talents      given us.

Our strength comes from always working.  If our work is for the Lord, we will not get tired.  We will be able to work past our own expectations.  If our work is not for the Lord, we will tire easily.

Our strength is in being trustworthy.  The Lord never gives us a cross that He has not already given us the strength and grace to handle.  Our strength comes from trusting and learning to listen to the prompting of the Holy Spirit.  Listen and Learn!  Trust in God’s promise that He will not forsake you.

We must be strong against the abuse and inappropriate use of sex.  Unfortunately, our world views sexual promiscuity as the mark of a real man.  We need to set boundaries to protect ourselves against immoral relationships and pornography.  We need to protect ourselves from situations where women are exploited; from the near occasions of sin.  We need to be careful about the movies we choose, the magazines we look at, the TV shows we watch, the bars we attend. 

Saint James tells us, “Each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.  Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin; and sin when it is full-grown brings forth death” (James 1:14-15).  Don’t fall into the trap.  Avoid the near occasion of sin by getting rid of any pornography you have.  Just throw it away; the magazines, the cable channel, all of it.  The real man is the one that has strength and seeks the strength in God to rule his passions.

Following these guidelines will make us strong and confident in God.  Our strength must be “spent” on God’s vocation for us.  That way when we die, we enter into heaven as though we are truly coming home, head held high, confident.  We can truly say we did our best.

“The Lord is my strength and my shield.  In Him my heart trusts, and I find help.”  ()Psalm 28:7)

 In many families, the father may be called to courage in trying times. If the father offers bold faith in God and solid Scriptural leadership in the home, the entire family will benefit.

Actions to Live By

  • List all of the emotions you think your father had. Now list his behaviors. After making the two lists, evaluate yourself in the light of them.
  • Next list both his strengths and weaknesses. Now compare yourself with your lists.
  • Where have you imitated and where have you just followed his lead? What needs to be changed?
  • Take one area from the list that needs change and work on it until your actions match up to your new thinking.

Strength

Etiquette is mindfulness – to watch constantly how you act and what you say and think in any and all situations, on and off the mats, is an important part of your martial arts training. To be caught off guard or in a weak moment or in a situation where you are acting improperly because you are not thinking, is the moment where you have “lost” yourself.

– Reverend Kensho Furuya, Aikido Sensei – Buddhist Priest

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