One Who Blesses

Posted: May 11, 2015 in Uncategorized
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As fathers, we must also be men who bless.  We bless everything.  We bless our wives, our children.  Why?  Because this shows that we care for them, that we love them.

Make the sign of the cross on the foreheads of your wife, your children before they leave the house, when they return, when they go to bed.  For the older children in whom you have not done this since they were kids you can give the blessing silently in your heart.   You don’t even have to touch them.  Although, it is not too late to start.

As a man who blesses; you also protect and ask for God’s protection on those you bless.

These little signs say, “I Love You!”  Make it a habit.  Incorporate this into your daily program.  At night bless your children with holy water and have them bless each other.  God’s protection is with them.

Also, bless whatever endeavor you undertake – projects at work, at home, your travels; everything.  If you know you are going into a tough meeting, silently bless each member as they walk in the door.  You’ll be amazed at the results.

A man, who blesses, is also a man who builds.  If at work, someone curses God’s name, silently offer a blessing for God’s name.  If someone tears down, then you build up.  If some destroys, then you should create.

“Let the children come to me and do not prevent them; for the kingdom of God belong to such as these.” “Then He embraced them and blessed them, placing His hands on them.” ( Mark 10:14,16)

Fathers-to-be, daily, lay your hands upon your unborn child (or children) and pray that the Holy Spirit fill your child (or children) with light, love and wholeness.


Heavenly Father, I praise You and thank You for deeming this life to be and for forming this child in your image and likeness.  Send forth Your Holy Spirit and illuminate her womb.  Fill it with Your light, power, majesty, and glory.

Lord Jesus Christ, come with Your love, and in Your infinite mercy pour forth Your healing into this child.  Remove any negativity that may have been conveyed knowingly or unknowingly.  Bathe this child in Your Precious Blood and fill it with Your Light and Truth.

Dear sweet Mother Mary, come and be with this child.  Come with your angels and saints and intercede on this tiny child’s behalf before each person of the Holy Trinity.

Thank You, Father for this beautiful child.  Thank You, Holy Spirit for filling this child with grace. Thank You, Jesus for healing this child.  Thank You, Mary, the angels and the saints for interceding on this child’s behalf.  To all of you this child is given.  May all honor and glory be given to God by this Child in time and in eternity.  Amen.  Alleluia.  Amen.

Author Unknown


Actions to Live By

  • Read a Christian/Catholic book on Fatherhood – make it a weekly habit year after year until what you think becomes who you are.
  • With your kids take a trip to the library to find “The Stone Face” by Nathaniel Hawthorne and then read it with your children.  Ask them what the story means to them and tell them what it means to you.  Bring in the spiritual side and illustrate how we can be changed step-by-step through reading the Bible.
  • Ask your children to think of one thing they want to change about themselves.  You need to come up with one too, as well as having a few suggestions for each child (i.e., yelling in the house, teasing a sibling, etc.) Tell them yours and ask for some suggestions on how to make some changes.  Do the same with their change areas.



As fathers and as men, we have an obligation to live up to the responsibilities of our vocation.  Too often we, feel like “walking away from it all”.  Our vocation calls us to be men of strength and courage.  The Lord will challenge us but will never give us more than we can handle.  If we are responsible with little things, He will then be open to make us responsible for greater things.

As fathers, we are depended upon, by our wives and children. We must show attentiveness to the need of our spouse, our children.  One of the most powerful instructions we can give to our children as fathers is our example in fulfilling our daily responsibilities to our family.  We pray to Saint Joseph for his help so that we do not omit these responsibilities, that we won’t grow tired, that we won’t feel like “walking away from it all.”

Prayer To St. Joseph

Oh St. Joseph, whose protection is so great, so strong, so prompt before the throne of God, I place in you all my interest and desires.  Oh, St. Joseph, do assist me by your powerful intercession, and obtain for me from your divine Son all spiritual blessings, through Jesus Christ our Lord.  So that, having engaged here below your heavenly power, I may offer my thanksgiving and homage to the most loving of Fathers.  Oh, St. Joseph, I never weary contemplating you, and Jesus asleep in your arms; I dare not approach while He reposes near your heart.  Press Him in my name and kiss His fine head for me and ask Him to return the Kiss when I draw my dying breath.  St. Joseph, Patron of departing souls — Pray for me.


Responsibility … Response–Ability

  • The ability to respond to life with:
  • open eyes,
  • open heart,
  • open hands…
  • – to see life and the world with wonder and reverence
  • – to care about people because they matter
  • – to reach out to others and make a difference
  • Responsibility is a privilege, not a burden.
  • It is a bond we make in faith, a bridge of promise between the uniqueness of me and the uniqueness of you.
  • Responsibility means giving myself in a “yes” to you with a firmness you can trust, because we have come to know God, Who has first pledged Himself to us.
  • “I am there with you always”.


Scripture Reading Luke 6:43-49

When we are responsible to our vocation and realize that our strength as fathers lies in the gift of our vocation then we are in fact a man listening to the Lord’s words and acting on them.  We are men who are laying a strong foundation, a foundation for our family that does not conform to the world but is transformed in Jesus Christ.  Jesus is where the strength in our vocation comes from.  He is our strength, our courage. But if you don’t realize the gift of God, the gift, and responsibility of your vocation then we are simply a man calling Lord, Lord but not doing what He commands.  If we do not have the strength of Jesus with us, then the foundation is weak, it falls, and we want to walk away from it all.

  • Scripture Reading Sirach 27:4-7

As men of God we are responsible to our speech.  Our speech shows whether or not we are men of God.  Our speech is a dead giveaway and shows whether we have conformed to the world or have worked to transform ourselves in Jesus Christ.  The key word is “worked”.  It is work to transform our self in Christ.  If you don’t want to work at it then you have automatically conformed yourself to the world because that is all it takes is to do nothing. Our children notice our words more than we give them credit.  Think before we speak.  In our words we are tested.

Other questions to consider:

  • Does your house reflect your faith?
  • Does your check book reflect your faith?
  • If someone walked in your house would they know how important Jesus is in your life?
  • Do we get time alone with our spouse?
  • Do you take time to share accomplishments, hopes, dreams, concerns?
  • Do we involve ourselves in our children’s projects, sports?
  • Do we maintain strength and consistency as a disciplinarian?

Actions to Live By

  • Get your “honey-do” list and knock off an item a day or a week until they are done.
  • Next make a list of seven things that are great about each of your kids.     Affirm your child in those areas, once a day for a week.



Posted: September 24, 2014 in Fatherhood, Fitness, Physical, Spiritual
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A man whose heart is set on God is always energetic.  God placed this energy within us.  We never become tired in our vocation if our focus is on Him.

This energy within us must also be properly channeled and focused so that good fruit is produced.  If not focused properly it turns to the self, what I need, what I want – this energy becomes selfish.

It is important as fathers that we are energetic and enthusiastic about our faith and our participation in the Church.  It is important that our faith is alive in us all week and not just on Sunday’s for an hour.  Our faith should shine through in how we live our lives. Our families will not be interested in learning about their faith when the father shows no excitement toward what they believe in.  Our families will never be interested in participating if every time we are asked to partake in a Church function or help on a project we look for an excuse for why we cannot be involved.

Take time for your faith.  Live it and teach it to your children.  Your children should see your faith alive in you daily.

Remember God gave us the tools, the gifts, the talents to be involved and energetic.  We need to produce; we need to produce our fruit.  It is expected of us.

“For this reason, I remind you to stir into flame the gift of God that you have through the imposition of my hands.” (2 Tim 1:6)

Traditions are a good way to focus our energy as fathers.  Not only holiday traditions, but daily events that take place in the house with your children from a very young age that show positive energy and enthusiasm to your faith.

Examples of these are:

  • daily prayers with the children,
  • reading lives of the saints and bible stories,
  • mealtime prayers,
  • blessing them with holy water,
  • saying a short prayer when you hear a siren,
  • make the sign of the Cross when passing a Catholic Church
  • helping the poor

Actions to Live By

  • In order to have informal teaching opportunities, you need to have some informal times together.
  • What things do you enjoy doing? Is it basketball?  Playing catch?  How about a board game?  A drive in the country?  A walk in the park of the woods? A craft?  What is the best day of the week for some fun with the kids?  Pick one or two or all of the suggested activities, or add your own, but make sure that you have at least one informal time together every week. Sometimes they will just happen, so look for informal teaching times, no   matter where you are.  Some people call it “quality time.”  Once you are in the informal period – listen and watch.  The lessons will come, but don’t force them.  In the mean time you’re having fun with the kids.


Posted: September 8, 2014 in Fatherhood, Physical, Prayer, Spiritual, Spiritual Warfare

Men. Fatherhood is your vocation, your calling by God.  So many lay men think only the priesthood is a vocation.  They thought they had a vocation at one time but then decided to get married.  Then they are shocked when they find out marriage is not easy and the first time it gets tough they don’t know what to do, they run, they want to leave their marriage.  No!  Marriage and Fatherhood is our vocation.  It is not easy.  It isn’t supposed to be.  If it was easy God would not have made it a sacrament.  It is a sacrament because we cannot do it alone.  We need God’s help.  God knows we cannot do it alone.  We need God’s sacramental grace for strength. We become strong through our vocation, through Fatherhood. 

Our strength comes from being responsible.  We have great responsibility for the gifts and talents we have been given as fathers.  Show your strength to your children as a Father who helps clean, who helps with dinner and dishes.  Show your strength in being a servant to your family.  Jesus said the greatest is the one who serves.  We are accountable for producing the fruit from the talents      given us.

Our strength comes from always working.  If our work is for the Lord, we will not get tired.  We will be able to work past our own expectations.  If our work is not for the Lord, we will tire easily.

Our strength is in being trustworthy.  The Lord never gives us a cross that He has not already given us the strength and grace to handle.  Our strength comes from trusting and learning to listen to the prompting of the Holy Spirit.  Listen and Learn!  Trust in God’s promise that He will not forsake you.

We must be strong against the abuse and inappropriate use of sex.  Unfortunately, our world views sexual promiscuity as the mark of a real man.  We need to set boundaries to protect ourselves against immoral relationships and pornography.  We need to protect ourselves from situations where women are exploited; from the near occasions of sin.  We need to be careful about the movies we choose, the magazines we look at, the TV shows we watch, the bars we attend. 

Saint James tells us, “Each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.  Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin; and sin when it is full-grown brings forth death” (James 1:14-15).  Don’t fall into the trap.  Avoid the near occasion of sin by getting rid of any pornography you have.  Just throw it away; the magazines, the cable channel, all of it.  The real man is the one that has strength and seeks the strength in God to rule his passions.

Following these guidelines will make us strong and confident in God.  Our strength must be “spent” on God’s vocation for us.  That way when we die, we enter into heaven as though we are truly coming home, head held high, confident.  We can truly say we did our best.

“The Lord is my strength and my shield.  In Him my heart trusts, and I find help.”  ()Psalm 28:7)

 In many families, the father may be called to courage in trying times. If the father offers bold faith in God and solid Scriptural leadership in the home, the entire family will benefit.

Actions to Live By

  • List all of the emotions you think your father had. Now list his behaviors. After making the two lists, evaluate yourself in the light of them.
  • Next list both his strengths and weaknesses. Now compare yourself with your lists.
  • Where have you imitated and where have you just followed his lead? What needs to be changed?
  • Take one area from the list that needs change and work on it until your actions match up to your new thinking.


Hearts Set on Children

Posted: September 1, 2014 in Uncategorized

As fathers, we must let our children know that we love them.  We must carry our entire family in our hearts.  Not only do we need to demonstrate this love to them, but we must also SAY IT.  Say, “I Love You!”.  Then be quiet.  Nothing more needs to be said.   Too often we say too much and soon find ourselves criticizing. 

Our children need to hear that they are loved.  They need to hear it, see it, and feel it.  How did you feel when your child without any prompting, comes to you, hugs you and tells you that they love you, daddy.  Any father will tell you that no money on earth can buy it.

We must also demonstrate our love to our children.  Children see how we walk, what is important to us.  If your faith is important to you, they notice.  Be a teacher through example.  Your children will not become men of God unless they see and witness a man of God.  Don’t nag thus they become hard-hearted. 

Spend time with your children.  Time is the great treasure because it is the gift of our self.  Children have a right to expect their fathers to be involved in their lives.  Discuss their joys, sorrows, experiences.  Raising your children just doesn’t mean existing as a father, it means to participate in their life.  It means to listen to them.  Make sure they know how important they are; how special they are.  Have fun!  Relax!  But it is also important that we instill discipline and high morals more than money and expensive toys. As a father our heart is set on our children, we carry our family in our heart.

As a father, if your heart is not set on your children, then they will be lost.  And, you will be lost.  Your greatest hope and prayer as a father is the salvation of your children, the souls that God has put in your care.

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up with the training and instruction of the Lord.” ( Eph 6:4)

 Actions to Live By

  • This weekend – set aside the lawn care, the paperwork, the to-do lists and even the “honey-do” list.  Grab your kids and head to the park.  Play a game that everyone can take part in.  When you’re done, go get some ice cream.     Sit around the table and look each one in the eyes and say “I love you!”
  • Ask your teenage child to go for a walk. Go to lunch or out for coffee.   Just talk.



Posted: August 25, 2014 in Fatherhood, Spiritual
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Men, most often, have great difficulty with forgiveness.  By being able to forgive we show our greatness; we have to be able to let go.  After all, we really don’t have power to forgive anyhow.  By letting go, we can ask God to forgive.  We give it to him and don’t take it back.

“Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34).  By letting go, giving the problem to the Father, we ask for His forgiveness.  By doing so, we come to better understanding of God’s mercy.

God’s forgiveness starts with us.  Often times we believe in God’s mercy and forgiveness but are not able to let go of our selfness.  We hold the hurt to us tight.  Without forgiveness we don’t allow ourselves to make mistakes, we become critical of others, we lack compassion and understanding, we become miserable and bitter.  Without forgiveness we destroy the relationships that God has given us; relationships with our brothers, sisters, wife, parents and children.  Peace cannot be in a family without forgiveness.

God’s mercy and forgiveness are infinite.  Don’t limit God working through you by not letting go.  Let go.  Healing our pain begins with forgiveness.

“Father, forgive them, they know not what they do”  (Luke 23:34)


A Father’s Love

“Love is patient, love is kind. 
It does not envy, it does not boast, 
it is not proud. It is not rude, 
it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, 
it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil 
but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, 
always trusts, always hopes, 
always perseveres. Love never fails.” 
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

Can you insert a special father’s name in each verse, in place of the words “love” and “it”? If you can do this and read the verses honestly, then you are fortunate.

A loving father points the whole family to the love of God all year long.

Actions to Live By

  • Maybe you’ve dropped the ball – you may have lost your temper, maybe missed a family activity.  If family life is like a ball game, then we’ve all dropped the ball a few times.  What can you do now?  Play the next play.  Sometime this week – play a game with your kids – baseball, basketball, or a board game.  When it’s over, let your kids know that there are times that you felt like you’ve failed, dropped the ball, landed in the wrong square. Let them know you’re sorry!  Then tell them there is another day.  The game isn’t over, you’ll do your best.  You may drop the ball again but together as a family you’ll win the game.


Posted: August 18, 2014 in Fatherhood, Spiritual, Spiritual Warfare

Men, this is where we lay down our life, die to self.  Our constant struggle will be with selfishness, our self-will and self-restraint.

Within this guideline we also discuss sexuality.  The most intimate union is between husband and wife.  Two become one and co-creators with God. Sexuality is a gift from God.  Many forget God created sex.

Two of the biggest lies the world has to offer is contraception and abortion.  In marriage we stand before God, two become one.  Marriage is to be a total gift of one to the other. We promise to give our whole self to each other and love each other until death.  We promise to accept children willingly.  But then in the most intimate single moment with our spouse we say “No” when we use a contraceptive.  We say no to the person we just vowed to.   We reject God’s word, we reject His gift of co-creator and from that point selfishness and lack of generosity seeps into every single part of our life.  If you have contraceptives, get rid of them.  Throw them in the garbage today.  As men of God we need to stand up against the lie of contraception in the world today.  We need to be open to life.  Don’t be part of a culture that says contraception is a good thing.  God condemned it in Genesis 38: 9-10 (Judah and Tamar) and Galatians 5 (Proper Use of Freedom).  God the Father is holy and pure and He is calling us to be His sons and be like Him.

Within this gift of sexuality, God gives us lasting pleasure.  When God gives, He gives in fullness.  Our union is blessed when we love sexually without contraception.  We love our spouses totally, without inhibition.  We respect them completely.  We respect God’s gift of “co-creator” without inhibition.  When we love in this way, God wraps his arms around our union, for this is the pure love that he intended and created.  Yes, we need to be responsible and prayerful.  But we need to be unselfish and generous with God.  And when we are, His blessing and protection are upon our marriage continually.

Sex outside of marriage or use of contraception leads to “destruction” of our persons, our relationship with each other and our relationship with God.  There is no “construction” in this type of relationship, only destruction.  We are asked to imitate God our Father and contraception is a sin directly against the Fatherhood that we are called to imitate.

When you take away the “self”, you receive the gift and blessing in its purest form.  When you take away lust and selfishness from sex, you will have an intimate, pleasurable, fulfilling union.

Our sexuality is a gift from our Father.  He created it.  When we receive it as a gift, we treasure it. We desire to make our relationship holy because it is meant to be.  This is everlasting happiness.  This union with our spouse and God is Matrimony, a sacrament.  Our goal is that we love our wives in twenty, thirty or forty years more than the day we were married.  God knew marriage was not easy.   He knew we would need His special grace.  He gave us marriage as a sacrament because He knew we cannot do it alone. We need His sacramental grace and through this sacrament you become a channel of God’s love to your wife and your wife becomes a channel of His love back to you.

“What profit is there for one to gain the whole world and forfeit his life?”  (Mark 8:36)

Actions to Live By

  • Search your data banks. Where have you been dishonest in the way you live?  Take that to God and ask for His forgiveness.  The next stop is to start making some changes.  Your wife and kids want the honest and real you.
  • A lot of us struggle with seeing ourselves correctly. Remember, we may not be able to see our faults, weaknesses and hypocrisies, but our kids can.  Pick    out one area that needs some work and start on that one.  Make it an easy    one so you can see some quick results.  Then try another.